How to love

There are many types of love, from self-love to romantic love. This wikiHow will give you tips and advice on how to love, starting from the most important person: yourself.

10 Second Summary

• Appreciate and care about yourself. Make loving you a priority. More ↓
• Adopt a positive outlook and do things that make you happy ↓
• Commit to a relationship and don't be afraid of emotional and physical intimacy. ↓
• Learn lessons from previous relationships and apply them to future situations. ↓
• Try to reconcile differences and balance the negatives with the positives. ↓

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   Appreciate you. Before loving anyone else, you have to love yourself. Learning to love yourself means accepting and appreciating the vulnerability within.^[1] You have many qualities that are unique to you. Learn to appreciate who you are and what you can offer.

   • If you have problems loving yourself, then work hard to build yourself up. Work on your self confidence by accepting your past and moving forward. You may feel that things you did in the past will make you unlovable, or that you have too many problems to be lovable. Untrue. Accept the things that happened to you, forgive yourself, and move on.
   • For more information, check out How to Love Yourself.
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   Care about yourself just as much as you care about others.This can be difficult if you find yourself as a natural caretaker or if you have children. Remember, your ability to take care of others increases if you are adequately taking care of yourself. ^[2]

   • Don’t let yourself become the last priority; instead, do things do show yourself you care. Treat yourself to a massage or a bath. Do one thing every day that is just for you.
   • This extends to maintaining boundaries and saying “no.” If what you need is some relaxation, say no to getting together with friends.^[3]